Share the Pants: Dating, Marriage & Everything in Between
Married couple, Nicole and Joel, discuss all things love and relationship.
Episodes
18 episodes
How Do You Make the Mindset Shift From Dating to Marriage?
A lot of the problems couples encounter in marriage could have been addressed while they were still dating.In this episode of Share the Pants, a listener asks us what changed when we went from just figuring out whether we...
3 Common Pieces of Marriage Advice We Don’t Follow
Some marriage advice gets repeated so often, we stop questioning whether it actually works.In this episode of Share the Pants, Joel and Nicole pull out one of their favorite wedding gifts: a journal filled with marriage ad...
He Showed Up Shirtless on Their First FaceTime. What Should She Do?
Nicole and Joel tackle a listener question about a man who decided the way to make a good first impresion was to show up on FaceTime... in bed... with his shirt off.Was it inappropriate? What do you actually say when a man does something...
What Makes a Man Want a Second Date? My Husband Answers
What actually makes a man want a second date?Nicole puts her husband Joel in the hot seat to get the male perspective on one of dating’s most frustrating questions: Why didn't he ask me out again?Joel’s answer might surpr...
The Relationship Lessons Hidden in MAFS Season 20
What can a reality TV experiment where strangers get married teach you about choosing a partner, creating emotional safety, and knowing when to stop trying to make a relationship work?A LOT.In this episode of Share the Pants
Relationship Anxiety: Is It Intuition or Fear?
You really like him. He’s kind, emotionally available, respectful, consistent, and everything seems to be going right.So why are you still wondering, Is this really my person?💌 Have a dating or relationship question yo...
Getting Married Doesn't Make You Ready for Marriage | MAFS Season 20
In this episode, we’re looking at three couples from Married at First Sight because they each brought their unresolved shit into the experiment in very different ways.Courtney is a perfect example of what happens when anxiety ta...
Some People Don't Want a Partner. They Want a Plus-One.
This episode breaks down the relationship patterns hiding underneath the drama of Married at First Sight Season 20. From power struggles to compatibility issues, there’s a lot more going on with these couples than meets the eye....
What a Great First Date Actually Feels Like
What does a healthy first date actually feel like?People say, "You'll know when you know." But... what does that actually mean?In this episode, we're taking you back to where it all started. Our Bumble match, our first messa...
You Don't Need to Feel Confident to Start Dating
This episode explores the myth that you have to be the "best version" of yourself before you start dating.Most people think they need to feel 100% confident before they put themselves out there.Lose the weight. Heal your trauma. E...
The Insecurities I Had to Face Before Finding My Person
What did Joel have to overcome before finding his queen?In this deeply personal episode, Joel steps into the spotlight to answer a listener question about the insecurities, struggles, and life experiences that shaped his journey to love....
Did The Bachelor Make a Huge Mistake Casting Taylor Frankie Paul?
Before the season even aired, Taylor Frankie Paul's run as the Bachelorette became one of the most controversial in franchise history. Now that reports suggest the season air soon and we have a lot of feelings about it.Was Taylor unfairl...
We Share the Pants Instead of Fighting Over Who Wears Them
Hear the story behind the name Share the Pants and what it actually means inside Nicole and Joel's marriage.They talk about wanting a traditional courtship: chivalry, planned dates, clear pursuit, and intentionality without buil...
How Long Is Too Long to Wait for a Proposal?
Our first listener question comes from a woman who's been with her boyfriend for 9 years and is wondering if she's wasting her twenties waiting for a proposal. In this episode, Nicole and Joel unpack one of the most common relations...
Love on the Spectrum: The Proposal & Breakups We Can't Forget
If you think every breakup is a failure, this episode might change your mind.We're diving into season four of Love on the Spectrum: from Tyler's unforgettable Christmas-in-July proposal that had us both sobbing to the heartb...
Dating Apps Aren't Why You're Still Single
If you've ever said, "The apps are trash," you're not alone. As a dating coach, Nicole hears it every day. And while dating apps can absolutely be frustrating, she and her husband, Joel, met on Bumble. They believe modern dating ...